Many of us are like Alice. We want direction, but we don’t know where we want to go.

Behaviour management is about making decisions. As parents, we sometimes choose not to engage. We know that our child’s behaviour is problematic, but we cannot bring ourselves to do anything about it. Sometimes we give in, sometimes we explode, sometimes we are understanding and patient, sometimes we are furious and dictatorial. 

Behaviour management helps us to focus on our goals: where do we want to go? Do we want our child to be docile and obedient or do we want her to retain her independence and free spirit? Different children have different problems and different families will need different solutions. But we all need to decide.